From Near Hopeless to Hopeful: My Journey into Fertility Coaching
I am often asked how I found myself in the niche world of fertility coaching. Does the statement, "Your mess becomes your message," resonate with you? It perfectly encapsulates my story. I never intended to enter the fertility field, but life sometimes leads us through dark, scary, and lonely places that seem devoid of hope and answers.
In May 2020, I married the love of my life. Just two short months later, I discovered I was pregnant. The excitement was overwhelming, and I couldn't wait to share the joyous news with family and close friends. I had always heard the advice to wait until after the baby was eight weeks old to announce a pregnancy. How silly, I thought—never imagining that our first baby’s story would end in tragedy. Medical professionals offered little hope during follow-up appointments, running a few tests that came back normal and essentially advising me to keep trying, saying such losses were common.
Though heartbroken and uncertain about the future, my husband and I quickly conceived again less than two months after our first loss. Just weeks into this new pregnancy, I began to bleed and was diagnosed with a severe subchorionic hemorrhage. All the emotions from our previous loss came rushing back. I convinced myself there was no way we could lose another baby, especially since I got pregnant so quickly again and felt great. I carried this precious life for a tumultuous 15½ weeks before losing them. I was devastated, requiring medical intervention that left me feeling even more hopeless. If it weren't for my faith and family, I might never have seen the light at the end of the tunnel. The palpable pain in my heart was unlike anything I had ever experienced. Little did I know this wouldn't be our last loss; we would go on to lose another precious life at just 5½ weeks in utero. My hope of becoming a mom had nearly dwindled to a mere spark, hanging on by a thread but never fully dying out.
At this point, my husband and I decided to take a year off to let my body heal, my heart mend, and rebuild our lives. I had so many unanswered questions from the medical professionals I had turned to. To be honest, I even questioned my faith and wondered where this good God was during this chapter of my life. I was utterly knocked down, my breath taken away.
However, time does have a way of healing. During this year, so many beautiful experiences came to fruition. My husband and I traveled internationally, backpacked two fourteeners, paddle-boarded on the river, spent lots of time with family, became more deeply connected with our community, and worked on our marriage. We did a deep dive into our health—mind, body, and soul. My husband and I also completed a course through the Fertility and Pregnancy Institute. The amazing insights I was able to implement from this time are truly a huge piece of what transformed my fertility.
Although I had a background in functional medicine, this new knowledge revitalized my soul and took me deeper into holistic healing. I learned how many factors could impact fertility, how critical sleep and stress are to reproductive health, and I mended my relationship with the Lord. What was meant for ashes certainly turned into beauty.
One year later, despite the fear, my husband and I decided to try again. In just two short months, we conceived, and I went on to have a beautiful, textbook pregnancy. Our little boy is now nearly one year old. He is healthy and such a joy!
My heart, having traversed the dark, scary, lonely, and seemingly hopeless place known as infertility, is to come alongside you. I offer compassion from a place I know intimately, provide the best evidence-based research, and equip you with tools to transform your body, helping you achieve the most fertile shape possible. I will advocate for you, cheer you on, lend an ear for your tears, and offer hope when it feels hopeless. Together, we will get you in your greatest fertility shape!
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